A lot of people in the pursuit and their understanding of love, have attributed various meanings to love, bringing about unrealistic expectations that have led to frustrations and further destroyed potentially healthy relationships.
Relationships could be between the opposite sex, same sex, amongst family members, colleagues, peers, etc at various levels.
These controversial meanings attributed to love, in general, have brought about a great strain, which a clear understanding between both parties could advert, hence this post.
Generally, most people attribute sex, acts of romance, manipulations, possessiveness, desire, rules, obligations, gifts, dependence, jealousy, assaults of varying degrees, sympathy, pity, demands, lusts, infatuations as expressions of love, but in truth, these things don’t mean love.
1 Corinthians13 tells us that love is not envious, boastful, proud, rude, self-seeking, easily angered, doesn’t keep a record of wrongs, neither does it delight in evil. The Passion Translation Bible of the above scripture gives us a clearer view of what love is not:
“It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. It finds no delight in what is wrong. It never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up. If you find yourself indulging in the opposite of this, then truly it is not love irrespective of the circumstances.
“Talk is cheap”.”Actions speak louder than words”.If you consistently speak, “I love you”, and act another, you won’t fool people for very long. 1John 3:18 says, “Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions”.
You can’t effectively love this way, firstly, if you haven’t accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as your Lord and Personal Savior. Secondly, you need to make a conscious decision to habitually walk in love irrespective of the hurts or offenses.
To make Jesus Christ the Lord of your life, say this prayer and mean it with all of your heart: “O Lord God, I believe with all my heart in Jesus Christ, Son of the living God. I believe He died for me and God raised Him from the dead. I believe He’s alive today. I confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, I have eternal life; I’m born again. Thank you, Lord, for saving my soul! I’m now a child of God. Hallelujah!”
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Written by: Dr. (Mrs) Eunice Chika.